Monday, July 13, 2015

Nudity and the empty nest





Exactly five weeks from today we will be dropping our youngest child off at college 2,000 miles away from home. Since she is the last child and we’ve been through this several times before you would think that we would have this all figured out. Each time we drove away and left one of our children behind it was difficult and I cried like a baby all the way home but I always had more children to come home to and take care of.  This time is going to remarkably different since there will be no children left at home. Many of our friends and family members have asked how we feel about becoming "empty-nesters" especially at such a young age. And while my husband’s running joke is that he is excited for us to chase each other around the house naked, the truth of the matter is that there will be mixed emotions.

The Mayo clinic defines empty nest syndrome as the phenomenon in which parents experience feelings of sadness and loss when the last child leaves home. Some research has suggested that parents who experience this profound sense of loss are more vulnerable to depression, alcoholism, identity crisis and marital conflicts. More recent studies show the positive effects such as an opportunity for couples to reconnect with each other and improve the quality of their marriage while also having reduced stress from work and family conflicts. I will admit that I have been afraid about how emotional I would be when my last child goes away to college, however, I know the power of positive thinking so I am choosing to embrace the positive and share with you three ways that I plan on embracing my empty nest to insure I keep my marriage and my sanity intact.

#1 - Run around the house naked
I do not mean this in the literal sense but hopefully you get the picture. My husband and I have always been really great about keeping the spark alive in our relationship while raising four children. However, this will be the first time that it is just us living together so we plan to take full advantage of this opportunity to take our romantic relationship to an even higher level (if that’s possible.) One word of caution to those of you who might have spent all of your married life focusing on the kids and not each other, this may prove to be difficult. Many couples find that they do not really know their spouse any more or even worse do not really enjoy spending time with them. People do change and relationships are like anything else in life, they need to be nurtured and attended to - what you do not water will wither and die. So if you are reading this, hopefully it’s not too late to re-ignite the spark.

#2 - Find replacement children
Nothing can truly replace our children or change the fact that we will miss them, worry about their safety and get our feelings hurt when they do not call or come home as often as we would like.  However, the idea of having replacement children helps ease the pain of not having our own children in the house to take care of. Currently we have three adult children who live on their own and we have three dogs which we call our replacement children. When our youngest takes off for college, we may be in the market for a fourth. If pets aren’t your thing or just don’t fit into your lifestyle you can always borrow other people’s children. I love kids so much and enjoy spending quality time with nieces, nephews and my friend’s children and the great thing about this option is that you can spoil them rotten for a weekend and then send them back home!

#3 - Tackle your bucket list
You are never too young or too old to start tackling your bucket list. Look for new opportunities in your personal and professional life to keep busy, take on new challenges or just seek adventure. This is a sure fire way to help ease the sense of loss that your child's departure may cause. Perhaps you have always wanted to write a book or pursue a new career but you never did because you were too busy raising your kids. Maybe you want to take ballroom dance classes or plan a romantic dream vacation for two. Make sure to take time to engage in new activities, hobbies or career pursuits that will bring you joy.


We plan on embracing this next phase of our life with optimism and joy while doing the things that we enjoy. Perhaps there will be a new puppy in our future, a new home in wine country and a loft or a new business venture. And just in case we decide to run around the house naked, be sure to call before you come to visit!!!


  

Levett and Pia Washington are relationship experts, co-authors of Shades of Love: Portraits of Successful Marriages and Love is Never Enough: Five Elements of Effective Relationships and coaches dedicated to helping people produce extraordinary results in their lives, careers and relationships. They are members of the Relationship Coaching Institute and their vision is to inspire others to maximize their potential by living an authentic life to experience true love and happiness regardless of their background, sexual orientation or lifestyle choices. Together since the age of 13, the husband and wife coaching team offers executive and relationship coaching services and hosts conferences, workshops and seminars for couples and singles and provide valuable insight from both the male and female perspectives. 

For more information on our upcoming events such as our Successful Singles Program or UNcommon with Brian Tracy book launch, visit their website www.ECIGroup.coachesconsole.com or www.PiaWashington.com; contact them via phone 805-415-5359 or follow them on twitter at www.twitter.com/piavet.

Friday, May 29, 2015

#RelationshipGoals

Levett & Pia Washington




Today is our 22nd wedding anniversary and shortly after this post we will be on our way to celebrate together. We have been happily married for 22 years and in a relationship for 32 years. We are often asked how we have been able to sustain a healthy, successful relationship over all these years. Obviously, there is no magic formula, but one thing that I know for sure is that we never just let our relationship happen to us. We have always worked on our marriage, established a plan for our future and created relationship goals. If you do a Hashtag search on Instagram today there are 1,130,545 posts related to #RelationshipGoals. The posts range from images of loving couples hugging, kissing, holding hands, to loving quotes and even some jokes. The good news is that it shows that people are at least thinking about what they want their relationships to look like. The next step is to actually set realistic goals and go about doing the things that are necessary to achieve them. We talk a lot about relationship requirements, needs and wants. It is imperative to know them for yourself and if you are in a relationship you need to share them with your partner. It is also just as important to know what you don't want in a relationship. We call these deal breakers. You also have to be willing to set boundaries and expectations and communicate them without being demanding or condescending. Finally, you need to discuss your vision for your future. Where do you want to be in 5, 10 or 50 years from now? What will your family look like? If you have children, how will you raise them? What are your financial goals and what standard of living will you be comfortable with? How much time will you spend together nurturing your relationship? Will you have regularly scheduled date nights or weekend getaways together? Strong relationships don't just happen, they are hard work and we encourage you to move forward and establish your own #RelationshipGoals.



Levett and Pia Washington are relationship experts, co-authors of Shades of Love: Portraits of Successful Marriages and Love is Never Enough: Five Elements of Effective Relationships and coaches dedicated to helping people produce extraordinary results in their lives, careers and relationships. They are members of the Relationship Coaching Institute and their vision is to inspire others to maximize their potential by living an authentic life to experience true love and happiness regardless of their background, sexual orientation or lifestyle choices. Together since the age of 13, the husband and wife coaching team offers executive and relationship coaching services and hosts conferences, workshops and seminars for couples and singles and provide valuable insight from both the male and female perspectives. 

For more information on our upcoming events such as our Successful Singles Program or UNcommon with Brian Tracy book launch, visit their website www.ECIGroup.coachesconsole.com or www.PiaWashington.com; contact them via phone 805-415-5359 or follow them on twitter at www.twitter.com/piavet.

Friday, April 3, 2015

Change is inevitable

Pia and Vet 1985



Pia and Vet 2013


As you can see from the photos of us from 1985 - 2013, change is inevitable! In just a few short months we will be officially empty-nesters as our youngest of four children goes off to college. We have talked and joked about this for many years now and often times with mixed emotions. The fact of the matter is that there will be changes in your life that affect your relationships, some you can plan for such as children growing up and moving out, but others are unexpected. Unfortunately, we have all probably witnessed many relationships that were not able to weather the changes together. Often times you will hear them say that they just changed or “grew apart.” Again, change and growth are certainties, but how are you preparing your relationship to be able to survive through the changes? To deal with the changes is best described by the three C’s: Connection, Communication, and Compromise.
 

Connection
One thing that successful couples have in common is that they simply take time to make their relationship a priority. Everyone is busy, but if you don’t have regular “connection time” which is intimate, private time between you and your partner on a regular basis you are not preparing for success. A common example of this is when parents put all of her energy, time and effort into raising their kids and none on their marriage. Once the kids move out, they realize that they don’t really have a connection with each other. They have spent the last two decades making the kids the priority instead of their relationship. Another common mistake is being so focused on job or career that your personal relationships always take a back seat.
Communication
The second technique necessary to deal with change is communication. I know you hear about every time the subject of relationships comes up, but effective communication is vital. You should talk to one another as often as you can about everything that you can. This will insure that you stay in touch with each others needs, wants, fears, dreams, likes and dislikes. We all change and grow over time and your odds of adapting to these changes are much better if you have open and honest communication with one another.
Compromise
Last but not least is compromise. If change is inevitable, you are bound to have a few differences of opinion along the way. Compromise is NOT about giving in or letting the other person “have their way.” Compromise is defined as the settlement of differences by mutual concessions. It is meant to be an intermediate solution to opposing views. For example, as we countdown the days until we are empty-nesters we have learned that we have a difference of opinion on how we spend our new found freedom. One of us would like to like in a cool, downtown loft close to nightlife and shopping, while the other desires to maintain a large family home in preparation for future family gatherings and grandchildren. After much discussion, we have decided that the compromise will be that we will most likely sell our current home and then maintain two residences - a loft or condo walking distance to restaurants and shops and a home suitable for holidays and weekend retreats with family. Every relationship is different but the important thing about managing change is willingness to be open to compromise.

Love & Blessings,
Levett & Pia

Levett and Pia Washington are relationship experts, co-authors of Shades of Love: Portraits of Successful Marriages and Love is Never Enough: Five Elements of Effective Relationships and coaches dedicated to helping people produce extraordinary results in their lives, careers and relationships. They are members of the Relationship Coaching Institute and their vision is to inspire others to maximize their potential by living an authentic life to experience true love and happiness regardless of their background, sexual orientation or lifestyle choices. Together since the age of 13, the husband and wife coaching team offers executive and relationship coaching services and hosts conferences, workshops and seminars for couples and singles and provide valuable insight from both the male and female perspectives. 

For more information on our upcoming events such as our Successful Singles Program or UNcommon with Brian Tracy book-signing, visit their websites www.ECIGroup.coachesconsole.com or www.PiaWashington.com; contact them via phone 805-415-5359 or 818-835-2ECI or follow them on twitter at www.twitter.com/piavet.

Wednesday, January 14, 2015

Pia Washington Signs Publishing Deal With CelebrityPress To Co-Author New Book



Los Angeles, CA – January 14, 2015 Author Pia Washington, Co-founder of ECI Group, has joined a select group of business experts and entrepreneurs from around the world, along with best-selling author and business development expert Brian Tracy, to co-write the forthcoming book titled, UNcommon: Common Sense but Uncommon Knowledge from ​Today's ​Leading ​Entrepreneurs and ​P​rofessionals to ​Help ​You ​L​ead an ​Extraordinary ​Life of ​Health, ​Wealth and ​Success. Nick Nanton, Esq. along with business partner, JW Dicks, Esq., the leading agents to Celebrity Experts® worldwide, recently signed a publishing deal with each of these authors to contribute their expertise to the book, which will be released under their CelebrityPress™ imprint.

Author of the book, Attracting the Life You Want: From the Boardroom to the Bedroom, Pia Washington is a dynamic speaker, coach and attraction specialist dedicated to helping people produce extraordinary results in their lives, careers and organizations. Pia is a results-oriented professional with over 20 years of experience across a wide range of industries such as Media & Entertainment, Technology, Biotech, Retail, Financial Services, Healthcare and Manufacturing. As a finance executive, she has achieved extraordinary results for many Fortune 500 companies including NBC Universal, DineEquity, Amgen, Guitar Center, Wellpoint, JP Morgan Chase, Exxon Mobil and Eaton Corporation.

A portion of the royalties earned from UNcommon! will be donated to Entrepreneur’s International Foundation, a not for profit organization dedicated to creating unique launch campaigns to raise money and awareness for charitable causes.

UNcommon: Common Sense but Uncommon Knowledge from ​Today's ​Leading ​Entrepreneurs and ​P​rofessionals to ​Help ​You ​L​ead an ​Extraordinary ​Life of ​Health, ​Wealth and ​Success is tentatively scheduled for release in Summer 2015.

More About Pia Washington:

Pia is a loving mother of four children and she has been happily married to her junior high school sweetheart Levett, for over 20 years. Levett and Pia are principals of The ECI Group which provides consulting and coaching services to Executives, Couples and Individuals. Together the two co-authored the books, Shades of Love: Portraits of Successful Marriages and Love is Never Enough: The Five Essential Elements of Effective Relationships. The vision for their coaching practice is to inspire others to maximize their potential by living an authentic life. The couple has appeared on THRIVE with Sandra Bishop, KKZZ AM 1400, KISS FM 102.7 and numerous internet radio talk shows.  They also publish a relationship blog at www.Lovesneverenough.blogspot.com.  

Pia is an active volunteer with several community based organizations. She is also founder of Novus In Tutum: New Path, Safe Haven which is a foundation that provides support services and transitional housing for women and children in crisis. Pia earned a BS in Finance from The University of Akron, attended Case Western Reserve University’s prestigious Weatherhead School of Management and she received her relationship coaching credentials from The Relationship Coaching Institute. Pia is committed to helping others use Passion, Inspiration and Attraction to achieve the life of their dreams from the boardroom to the bedroom!

You can connect with Pia at:

About Celebrity Press™:

Celebrity Press™ is a leading business, health and wellness book publisher that publishes books from thought leaders around the world. Celebrity Press™ has published books alongside Jack Canfield, Brian Tracy, Dan Kennedy, Dr. Ivan Misner, Robert Allen and many of the biggest experts across diverse fields. CelebrityPress™ has helped launch over 1500 best-selling authors to date. 


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Contact:
Matt Collins
Dicks and Nanton Celebrity Branding Agency®
800-980-1626

Pia Washington, ECI Group, life coach, attraction specialist, success coach, UNcommon, CelebrityPress

Links:

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