Friday, December 20, 2013

New Year New Love


 
On January 1st millions of people will begin their new year with resolutions to lose weight, get out of debt or quit smoking with a sense of anticipation and eagerness. These are common resolutions and we cannot underestimate the importance of having health and fitness goals, but having successful, fulfilling relationships is also critical for our happiness and well-being. So if you are single, or if you are in an unhappy relationship, why not resolve to improve your love life in 2014!?! Below are Ten Steps to Finding your Perfect Mate:
1. Start by losing the losers
If you want to find your soul mate you must be available and not involved with people that aren’t right for you. Staying available is hard for a lot of singles, but necessary for finding the love of your life.

2. OK, available now? Next… are you “ready?”
Any unfinished business that might sabotage your next relationship? Legal, financial, emotional, kids, ex, employment? Get it handled!

3. Next, make a list of your top five “requirements”
Requirements are non-negotiable deal-breakers; what you must have or must not have in your relationship. Vow not to get involved with anyone that doesn’t meet all five. Share your list with your closest friends and make them swear to tell you the truth and lock you up if you get off-track.

4. Good job. Now, let’s get crystal clear about this “dating” thing:
If you want to avoid the deadly dating traps, focus on these Four Steps for Conscious Dating:

Step One: Scouting (find compatible people to meet- internet, through friends, getting out there, etc)
Step Two: Sorting (quickly determine if someone you meet has potential)
Step Three: Screening (collect enough information to know if your requirements would be met)
Step Four: Testing (date a few times and compare the reality with the information)
Repeat as needed.
That’s it… nothing more, nothing less. No “trial relationships,” no fun flings; just these four steps.

5. Get support
Don’t do this alone. Dating can be scary and isolating, and your friends and family can be your safety net to help you stay on track.

6. Work it!
Most people meet their soul mate through someone they already know, so let people know you’re looking and network like crazy.

7. Be positive and happy
Success breeds success and misery loves company… your choice.

8. Be the Chooser!
Go after what you want and don’t simply react to what or who chooses you.

9. Be assertive!
If you settle for less, you’ll get less. Ask for what you want and say “No” to what you don’t want.

10. Live a great life NOW while you’re single.
“If you build it, they will come” (from the movie “Field of Dreams”).

Finding your perfect mate is a combination of working on yourself so that you’re ready to attract and keep this wonderful person, and being proactive in your life to go after what you want instead of waiting for it to come to you, or hoping it will just “happen.” If you are serious about finding love, sign up for our Conscious Dating® Finding Your Happily Ever After Program for Singles in 2014. We wish you a Happy New Year and best wishes in your journey to find the love of your life and the life that you love.

Levett and Pia Washington are relationship experts, co-authors of Shades of Love: Portraits of Successful Marriages and coaches dedicated to helping people produce extraordinary results in their lives, careers and relationships.

They are members of the Relationship Coaching Institute and their vision is to inspire others to maximize their potential by living an authentic life to experience true love and happiness regardless of their background, sexual orientation or lifestyle choices. Their signature program The L.O.V.E. Institute teaches clients how to LOVE by “Living Our Values Every-day.” Together since the age of 13, the husband and wife coaching team offers executive and relationship coaching services and hosts conferences, workshops and seminars for couples and singles and provide valuable insight from both the male and female perspectives. For more information, contact them at 818-835-2ECI, email strongrelationships@gmail.com or Follow them on twitter at www.twitter.com/piavet
 
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