On January 1st millions of people will
begin their new year with resolutions to lose weight, get out of debt or quit
smoking with a sense of anticipation and eagerness. These are common
resolutions and we cannot underestimate the importance of having health and
fitness goals, but having successful, fulfilling relationships is also critical
for our happiness and well-being. So if you are single, or if you are in an
unhappy relationship, why not resolve to improve your love life in 2014!?!
Below are Ten Steps to Finding your Perfect Mate:
1. Start by losing the losersIf you want to find your soul mate you must be available and not involved with people that aren’t right for you. Staying available is hard for a lot of singles, but necessary for finding the love of your life.
2. OK, available now? Next… are you “ready?”
Any
unfinished business that might sabotage your next relationship? Legal,
financial, emotional, kids, ex, employment? Get it handled!
3. Next, make a list of your top five
“requirements”
Requirements
are non-negotiable deal-breakers; what you must have or must not have in your
relationship. Vow not to get involved with anyone that doesn’t meet all five.
Share your list with your closest friends and make them swear to tell you the
truth and lock you up if you get off-track.
4. Good job. Now, let’s get crystal clear
about this “dating” thing:
If
you want to avoid the deadly dating traps, focus on these Four Steps for
Conscious Dating:
Step
One: Scouting (find compatible people to meet- internet, through friends,
getting out there, etc)
Step
Two: Sorting (quickly determine if someone you meet has potential)Step Three: Screening (collect enough information to know if your requirements would be met)
Step Four: Testing (date a few times and compare the reality with the information)
Repeat as needed.
That’s it… nothing more, nothing less. No “trial relationships,” no fun flings; just these four steps.
5. Get support
Don’t
do this alone. Dating can be scary and isolating, and your friends and family
can be your safety net to help you stay on track.
6. Work it!
Most
people meet their soul mate through someone they already know, so let people
know you’re looking and network like crazy.
7. Be positive and happy
Success
breeds success and misery loves company… your choice.
8. Be the Chooser!
Go
after what you want and don’t simply react to what or who chooses you.
9. Be assertive!
If
you settle for less, you’ll get less. Ask for what you want and say “No” to
what you don’t want.
10. Live a great life NOW while you’re single.
“If
you build it, they will come” (from the movie “Field of Dreams”).
Finding
your perfect mate is a combination of working on yourself so that you’re ready
to attract and keep this wonderful person, and being proactive in your life to
go after what you want instead of waiting for it to come to you, or hoping it
will just “happen.” If you are serious about finding love, sign up for our
Conscious Dating® Finding Your Happily Ever After Program for Singles in 2014.
We wish you a Happy New Year and best wishes in your journey to find the love
of your life and the life that you love.
Levett and Pia Washington are relationship experts, co-authors of Shades of
Love: Portraits of Successful Marriages and coaches dedicated to helping people
produce extraordinary results in their lives, careers and relationships.
They are members of the Relationship Coaching
Institute and their vision is to inspire others to maximize their potential by
living an authentic life to experience true love and happiness regardless of
their background, sexual orientation or lifestyle choices. Their signature program
The L.O.V.E. Institute teaches clients how to LOVE by “Living Our Values
Every-day.” Together since the age of 13, the husband and wife coaching team offers
executive and relationship coaching services and hosts conferences, workshops
and seminars for couples and singles and provide valuable insight from both the
male and female perspectives. For more information, contact them at
818-835-2ECI, email strongrelationships@gmail.com
or Follow them on twitter at www.twitter.com/piavet
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